Whether you just started dating or she doesn’t flinch when you fart anymore, chances are the moments that make you appreciate your relationship aren’t grand romantic gestures.

It’s the little moments in a relationship that mean the most, says Jennifer Freed, Ph.D., a relationship and family therapist.

For ideas, we turned to seven women who are happy in their long-term relationships. Here’s the number one thing their partners do to make them swoon.