The best thing about sitting on someone’s face is you can get an orgasm and a thigh workout! It’s a twofer! Face-sitting, which is pretty much what it sounds like, is when a woman or man dangles their genitals over their partner’s mouth for some intense oral sex.

Although anyone can technically pop a squat on their partner’s face, women are the most common “givers” of this act. Face-sitting is also particularly big in the BDSM community where it earned the nickname “queening,” as in a queen sitting on her throne. Brings a whole new meaning to phrase “Yas queen!” Aptly named Carol Queen, staff sexologist at sex toy store Good Vibrations, explains that face-sitting “relates to another dominant female activity called body worship, which is either being licked all over or gone down on dutifully” by a submissive partner. There are worse ways to spend a Sunday.

How To:

If you are the queen, you can kneel over your “subject,” who will be lying down on their back. Straddle their face with your legs and use your thigh muscles to hover your genitals right over their mouth. You don’t want to put your full weight on their face or you could restrict their breathing, which is dangerous. As far as which direction to face, it’s entirely up to you; it doesn’t make a lick of difference (pun intended).

Once you are in position, your partner should do whatever they normally do when giving cunnilingus. This includes but is not limited to, sucking, kissing, and flicking your clit with their tongue. Feel free to take advantage of this empowering posish to tell your partner what you want. After all, you are the queen.

Variations:

There’s also a form of BDSM breath-play called smothering, which is when a dom purposefully smushes their genitals in their sub’s face, cutting off breathing. While it may sound awkward and uncomfortable for some people, for others, it’s a sexy blast. Obviously, be careful trying this at home because you could accidentally murder your partner. “He died doing what he loved … drowning in pussy. Literally.”

Related Terms:

Cunnilingus

Face-Sitting in Popular Culture:

Face-sitting was one of the acts banned in porn in the U.K. in 2014, prompting protesters to sit on each other’s faces (while fully dressed) in public. Whether or not you’re usually politically active, this is one protest you can probably get behind … or on top of.

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Face-sitting is big in the U.K., it seems. In 1980, Monty Python, the iconic British sketch comedy troupe, famously wrote a song called “Sit on My Face.” They sing, “Life can be fine if we both 69.” Words to live by!

But it’s not just Brits who get a kick out of it. In the 2006 stoner comedy Grandma’s Boy, eccentric video game creator J.P. – who inexplicably speaks in a robot voice – gets a bit overexcited when a woman at a party plays along with his robotic proclivities. See it here if you so choose.